Posts Tagged ‘failure’
Posted on September 15, 2009 - by reallyrotten
Respect Yourself
My 13-year old son had started at one of the most prestigious private schools in the nation – an honor that we were paying $20,000 a year for and at a school that had 100 applications for each spot! When he came home the second month with a horrified look on his face, telling me that he’d done something awful, I was more than a little concerned. He explained that, as a prank, he had given a boy’s locker combination to someone else. That person had opened the locker, and trashed all the books and belongings inside. He didn’t know what to do, so he asked for my advice.
Here’s what I guided him to do: He called the boy whose locker was trashed, told him that he was responsible, and that he would do whatever it took to make things right. He called the boy’s parents, told them he was sorry and would do whatever it took to make things right. Even though the mother was yelling at him and calling him names, I stood by his side, and he continued to apologize. The next morning, he went to the Dean’s office before his first class, told the Dean what he had done, and said he would do whatever it took to make things right.
This was one of the most terrifying moments of my son’s life up until that time. I can remember the look of horror on his face as the mother cursed him and called him names. I also remember that he was able to stand up tall, with dignity and with self-esteem, as he went to school the next morning to talk with the Dean. He felt good about himself, not because he had made a mistake (as everyone is going to do in life!), but because he had the courage to stand up and admit it. He had the integrity to take responsibility for his actions and the inner strength to do whatever it took to make things right.
Now, you may be wondering what happened in all of this. My son had to pay for a new lock for the boy’s locker. The Dean called me to tell me he had never in his entire career seen a student carry himself with such dignity and such integrity. He was truly impressed and thanked me for the guidance I’d given him, and for raising such an incredible son with clear values.
The boy whose locker had been trashed barely talked to my son for four years. And yet, when they were graduating from high school and went to their elementary school reunion, it was as if nothing had ever happened. Yes, it took some time for the wounds to heal, but in the end everything turned out fine.
What happened to the boy who actually opened the locker and trashed it? He refused to apologize and his parents refused to make him apologize. He was put on detention for weeks and was asked to leave the school at the end of the year.
We all make mistakes, some of them are big ones, some of them are small. My son made a mistake, and in the process got to learn a very valuable lesson.
Honesty is always the best policy. Taking responsibility for what you say and do is essential if you want to feel good about yourself. It’s important to be willing to go to any length to make things right when you breach your integrity. It may not be easy. It may feel crummy and uncomfortable. You may get yelled at. In the end, though, you’ll be able to walk with your head held high, you will be able to go to sleep in peace at night, and you will be respected.
Most important, you will respect yourself. That may be the greatest gift of all.
Posted on November 10, 2008 - by reallyrotten
Things we shouldn’t do in life
When we create life lists we always think of the things we desire to do. But we don’t spend enough time or anytime at all, thinking about the things we shouldn’t do in our lives.
This list compiles 15 things to never do in life. Now if you’ve done them don’t worry, every day is a fresh start.
1. Pursue something for money
This has delayed my path to success for years. Every endeavor I undertook was done mainly for the monetary gain. This will almost always lead to failure. And if it does lead to any success, chasing money only makes the journey that much longer. Passion and purpose needs to be the most important aspect of any pursuit. However, following a passion can lead you to riches as well. Check out this video of Gary Vaynerchuk, a successful entrepreneur, talking about how following your passion can also lead to the fortune you desire. (more…)
Posted on November 10, 2008 - by reallyrotten
Reasons why you hate your life
There’s really no reason you should hate your life. Many people give excuses as to why they do. Here are 12 common reasons. If you given these excuses then you need to quickly readjust your thinking. When you do, you’ll quickly come to enjoy your life.
1. Your parents ruined your life
Many people complain that their parents raised them wrong, set them up for failure, or didn’t start a college fund for them. If you can recognize these shortcomings, the you can change the future.
2. You have no money
This is probably the worst excuse. If money is the main reason for your happiness then you will never be happy. Money should not make you enjoy your life or hate it. (more…)
